Hello world, my name is James. I’m a divorced-and-remarried-dad-of-3. My new wife and I don’t want to share our infertility issues with the world or my children¦ and most certainly not with my ex-wife. For that reason, I decided to be a bit anonymous here and not use my last name. I decided to join the fertility-focused blogging community because I wanted to give a male perspective on infertility. According to the National Institutes of Health, 1 out of every 6 couples will have problems conceiving and 40% of the time it’s a male factor. So, guys, it could be us that has the baby makin’ issue. For some guys having any sort problem with respect to their reproductive abilities can be very emotional, embarrassing and cause doubt about our manhood all together “ it’s way more than a physical issue.
It’s complicated: For me, the issue of infertility isn’t clear cut. Is it (my) male or (my wife’s) female issue? You see, fertility wasn’t an issue for me in the past. My ex-wife and I just looked at each other and she got pregnant. Then, after my 3rd child was born, we decided 3 children were all we wanted and I got a vasectomy “ just to make sure there wasn’t going to be a surprise number 4. Unfortunately, the marriage gods weren’t kind to me and we ended up divorcing. Now with a new wife and a new outlook on life, having a child is something I want very badly. So, off to the urologist I go for my vasectomy reversal. A whole lot of pain, a couple of week of nursing the boys back to normal, 6 sexless weeks of waiting to see if things worked, a semen analysis, more waiting and another semen analysis revealed the plumbing was hooked up right and yes, we have some swimmers! Now let’s have some fun making a baby.
Hold on there buckaroo, did I mention my wife has PCOS? This is going to be a challenging endeavor to say the least.
Stay tuned, more to come…
