Photo by Stephanie Himel-Nelson
Hello again everyone! I have been MIA for a while due to being super busy over the past few weeks, but I wanted to check in and see what has been happening on the new blog site.
So, I have been talking to quite a few people regarding infertility, its varying forms, and how it is socially “acceptable” for people to respond to them. The levels run the gamut from unsuccessfully trying to conceive for years, to those who have had multiple miscarriages prior to having a successful and healthy pregnancy. There are also many who already have been blessed with a child, but would like more, and they are still experiencing difficulties conceiving. Even though some people may ultimately have children, it doesn’t mean that they were “cured” of their infertility problems.
Sometimes it seems like some of my friends have gotten pregnant merely by looking at their husbands and it still bothers me that, even though I was finally able to conceive, we had to go through all we did just to get to this point. Plus, my husband and I want to have more children in the future and I am terrified I may have to experience this all over again. I also know of some people who have 1 or 2 successful pregnancies, but had to endure multiple miscarriages to get to that point. While they are thrilled to have children, each miscarriage was a devastating experience to endure.
So whether you have been TTC (trying to conceive) for years with no luck or have had a child or two and are trying for more, everyone needs to be sensitive, and, perhaps more importantly, respectful toward all infertility experiences. Each one of us has had our own unique and stressful experience, but we need to remember that we all are attempting to reach the same goal of a successful and healthy pregnancy.
Jacqui Dunn is an executive assistant for IntegraMed and is expecting her first child after going through IUI.
