Last week, we hosted a Twitter Party with renowned psychologist and infertility counseling specialist in the field of assisted reproduction, Dr. Andrea Braverman. We had a lot of great questions, answers, and fun! If you missed the party, or were unable to follow all the responses live, then here are some of our favorite Q&As from last Monday:
@AttainFertility hi!!! Husband has CAVD. Hard when people ask when we are having one. Hard to see all the kiddos excited about Santa.
Dr. Braverman: It is very hard; it’s extra important to take care of yourself during the holidays. #TTCholiday #infertility
I think so many don’t realize how common male #infertility is. #TTCholiday
Here’s a post that addresses the male infertility perspective: http://bit.ly/ey8p2T It’s often even harder for the men to discuss #TTCholiday
@AttainFertility #TTCholiday how do u stop from breaking down or blowing up when people constantly ask “what are u waiting on”?
Dr. Braverman: Have a quick standard response/subject change rdy: “How’s your mom doing?” “How’s UR weight loss coming?” LOL! #TTCholiday
How do I respond positively during the holidays when all I feel is negative? #TTCholiday #infertility
Dr. Braverman: You don’t have to be positive if you’re sad. Let others celebrate. U can sit this celebration out w/o being a Scrooge. #TTCholiday
What do I do if I get upset? How do I explain my reaction without “spilling the beans?” #TTCholiday
Dr. Braverman: Have excuse prepared so you can leave & don’t have to figure it out suddenly. Headache. Upset stomach. It’s OK to b private. #TTCholiday
How can I nicely tell people I’m not looking for their tips on how to get pregnant? #TTCholiday
Dr. Braverman: Firmly tell them you have the best medical care possible and are completely on top of things. #TTCholiday
Struggling w/$ for #infertility treatments. Can’t afford splurge on presents. How do we explain this to family? #TTCholiday #infertility
Dr. Braverman: Be direct & let them know infertility costs a lot. Do small thoughtful gifts such as baking, a book, or framed pictures. #TTCholiday
Over Thanksgiving, made my sister angry. How do I apologize but also help her understand how hard #infertility is for me? #TTCholiday
Dr. Braverman: Take responsibility for your part but ask her to walk in your shoes & explain. Bring article such as: http://bit.ly/gqJMM5. #TTCholiday
When I see babies I cry. Can’t avoid nieces. How do I pull myself together w/out making everyone feel bad. #TTCholiday #infertility
Dr. Braverman: Be upfront and let family know that you will cry but are ok, so just understand that crying is how the pressure gets out. #TTCholiday
Step outside if you need to really let it out. Have support person who knows to go w/you & let you voice your feelings. #TTCholiday
Missed the party? What other infertility questions do you have? Comment and ask us here!
Thank you to all of our wonderful followers who submitted great questions and participated:
@LLLSummer, @MrsHarriett, @mommy_to_2_chis, @mefon531, @aelmdh413, @momofbestbaby!
